In the latest social media wedding proposal, Los Angeles business consultant Curt Buthman proposed to his girlfriend by posting a video of himself popping the big question on Vine. Vine is one of the newer social media platforms that enables you to take short videos of things and post them onto the outlet to share with your friends, family and co-workers. As if this type of wedding proposal weren’t impersonal enough, Buthman’s girlfriend responded “Yes!” to the proposal on Twitter! You’d think this was all one giant hoax, and that the couple must have had a “real” or more intimate proposal beforehand, but alas it was all done through social media. The proposal and response alone prove that this couple is meant to be together.
Despite the impersonal nature of using social media to propose to your loved one, the gesture is also loaded with the subcontext of needing attention and wanting to get married for the wrong reasons. You can only hope that if someone proposes on social media that their intentions are pure and that they are marrying you for the right reasons. A lot of proposals go south even when they aren’t mal-intended, so when it comes to proposing to your loved one try, at all costs, to avoid doing so over a social media outlet. The primary purpose of social media is to connect to a larger audience. A wedding proposal is an intimate and personal gesture that is symbolic of how you will spend the rest of your life. That being said, it’s very important to carefully examine the way in which you are planning to propose and perhaps keep social media as a non-option from the very beginning.
If you are unsure about how to propose to your loved one, don’t be afraid to use the internet for inspiration. That isn’t to say that you should use the internet as a means to actually propose. Be careful about the way in which you chose to propose and try to make it as intimate and personal as possible. The only thing worse than a bad proposal is the love of your life rejecting a future with you because of it. It’s well worth the extra effort to go above and beyond when it comes to planning a proposal that your loved one has always dreamed of. In the long run the one thing that is certain is that when it comes to proposing to your loved one you need to put down the app, social media outlet, iPhone, laptop etc. and make it an experience that isn’t reduced to a technological gesture. By doing so, you will ensure a future with the person that you love and end up living a beautiful, happy and healthy life.