Being A Bridesmaid Isn’t A Death Sentence

Bridesmaid PlanningWhile there is a dark cloud that seems to lurk over the news of being chosen as a bridesmaid, it’s not all bad. There are actually some serious perks of not being the first one of your girlfriends to be married off into the wild world of marital bliss. Of course, there is the list of cons including,

  • Bridezilla’s wrath
  • Creepy groomsmen
  • Maid-of-Honor speech [If you're not good at giving speeches, of course]
  • The 50-50 chance of a bad bridesmaid dress and/or shoes

However, there are at least three awesome benefits of being a chosen as a bridesmaid. Besides the fact that you could potentially find your future husband within the groomsmen, here are some other awesome reasons why saying ‘yes,’ to being a bridesmaid is not a death sentence.

 1.) Learn From The Bride’s Mistakes

It’s kind of like what you say your entire life while growing up – “I’m never going to be like my parents.” – Yeah, well you don’t want to be a bridezilla either. If you bestie is causing some serious drama and stress with her high priced wedding demands, just remember that when you down the aisle, “I’m never going to be like her.”

2.) Play Dress Up

What little girl did not go through a dress-up phase while growing up? Being a bridesmaid is as close as you’ll get to being a princess until it’s your wedding day. So, enjoy having the opportunity to get all dolled up with your hair and makeup. Plus, if you’re lucky, the bridesmaid dress will basically make you look like you just walked out of a fashion catalog.

3.) Make New Friends

As you grow up and move around – whether it be from your job or just relocating after college – your friend count might dwindle. When you get invited to a wedding and you are offered the position of being a bridesmaid, you could potentially be making some new BFF’s, which would up your friend count.

So, if you end up getting that invitation in the mail or if she asks you in person, weddings are not all drama. There are some serious benefits of saying “yes,” to the bride – plus, don’t knock it till you’ve tried it!

The Craziest Bridesmaid’s Rules Written By A Bride

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This is what Bridezilla looks like in full-force.

   E! Online recently leaked an amazing email from Gawker which is the go-to online source for hilarious, unbelievably leaked emails via the recipient. Now, this amazing forum recently received an email from an anonymous bridesmaid that was sent to her from the bride-to-be and it includes some of the most ridiculous rules ever placed upon a bridal party. They’re too good to make up – here is the breakdown of the email…

   Ok, the email begins with a warm greeting from the bride who also refers to herself as “Queen Bee,” where she writes, “Welcome to my bridal party, it is officially six months until my wedding day,” then things get a little more serious when she throws in the line, “I just wanted to go over some ground rules…”

Please NOTE: The names of the bridesmaid’s have been changed to protect any shred of dignity that this bridezilla leftover. Also, it is quoted from the email (hence first person).

Rule 1 

Weigh-ins will begin in three weeks. (Yep, that’s all she wrote.)

Rule 2

No one can be skinnier than the bride. That means Nicole and Ashley will be on a protein weight gainer diet until May. I will have the nutritionist call you to discuss diet plans.

Rule 3

I was thinking that we should start daily Google docs, where everyone can update in real time their daily calorie content… I thought the food calculator would be a great way for me to monitor everyone’s caloric intake. Thoughts? (Bridezilla, are they even allowed to have thoughts?)

Rule 4

If you plan on chopping off your locks, please submit your proposed new look prior to any actions, this applies to coloring as well. Failure to follow will result in bridal banishment.

   Now, obviously rule number four was the hardest to oblige due to the fact that Queen Bee sent her “bees,” a follow up email reading…

 

Good afternoon all my faithful bees. It brings me great sadness to write this e-mail, but it was brought to my attention that one of my chosen bees is defected. She is in violation of Rule No. 4, despite asking permission and having her request denied! The punishment is obviously bridal party banishment. However, after careful consideration, I have decided to re-instate her status on a provision basis. As long as her bangs grow out by [date two weeks before the wedding], she will be allowed to participate in our festivities. She has reassured me that she will be using horse shampoo for rapid hair growth until that point.

   As if this story could not get any better, one commenter on Gawker said that she knew the bride and announced to everyone that three of the bridesmaid’s no longer speak to the bride. Talk about some serious drama involving a bridezilla, the dress fitting for the remaining bridesmaids must have been full of excitement and joy. Oh, and for a piece of advice for all the future bride’s, do not ever allow yourself to become this girl.

Tips For The Wedding Toasters

Bridesmaid DressNow, whether you are good at public speaking or not, actually if you aren’t then you should not have accepted the offer at giving a toast, but anyways, if you are one of the designated toaster’s, there are a few key things to remember in order to keep the room casual and not awkward. When people give wedding toasts, they often forget the different between a roast and a toast. However, if you fear this to be your problem and think that your speech might be a little too racy, just think about the bride and groom’s personality. If you understand the personalities of the people who asked you to be the maid of honor and best man at their wedding, then they should have some faith in you. So, here are some solid speech giving tips for the future toaster’s out there!

Keep It Simple

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No one wants to listen to you talk for an hour about stories that they were not there for, bottom line. Yes, it is a cute moment for you and the bride to share, but it is not just the two of you in the room. Your speech doesn’t have a time limit, but people have attention spans that vary at different lengths. So, just be genuine with your emotions, let the words flow, and keep it at a decent length.

Don’t Aim To Make People Laugh

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Jokes will come if they come. If you try to make people laugh, you most likely won’t. If the bride and groom have a sense of humor and sarcasm and jokes are their forte, then you can throw some jabs in there, but try making the personality assessment in a broad sense, then the whole room has the potential to understand and relate.

Keep Away From College Stories

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College reflection is meant to be done in the privacy of a girl’s apartment on a girl’s night. The bride’s parent might know you girls got into some crazy antics in college, but that doesn’t mean they want to hear about them so, by no means should you be making anyone uncomfortable. Also, aside from the age demographic of your audience, a majority of them have no idea what you are talking about and they simply don’t care.

It’s Okay To Cry

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While you should not aim to make people cry, these speeches can be a really moving moment between the bridesmaid and the bride. If you happen to cry, don’t hold it back with too much force because then your voice will reach new and strange octaves. There are also plenty of girls around you to help adjust your make up if you do happen to tear up. Also, if you feel like you are on the verge of losing it, or you don’t like crying in public, then just take a deep breath and let it out slowly.

If you are nervous about giving a speech, just remember that the bride chose you knowing that this would be an important step in the process. So, since your best friend has faith in you, otherwise she would have openly given the toasting opportunity to someone else, just speak from your heart and help in celebrating the love between the bride and groom…  You’ll be fine!

 

 

 

Bridesmaid Dishes On Nene Leakes Wedding

BridesmaidEven though the Atlanta Housewife, Nene Leakes, has filmed her recent nuptials to her ex-husband for a Bravo! series spin-off, there is nothing like an exclusive interview with a bridesmaid that can really dish on the things that the camera’s could not capture. Leakes’ best friend and LA Basketball Wife, Laura Govan, recently opened up about how anything dealing with Nene Leakes is a good time.

While the camera’s undoubtedly captured some dramatic moments (reality TV would be nothing without it), Govan explained how the bridesmaids dresses posed more problems that the actual bride and her demands. “What I wanted was something different,” Govan explained, “I didn’t get it, but we worked it out. As a matter of fact, I took pieces out of the trashcan. I took some scraps to make it work.” Of course, it may seem like not letting a woman such as Laura Govan have her dream bridesmaid dress would put a damper on the friendship, but she assured that it was anything, but that.

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Leakes wedding photo from Life & Style.

“She’s very mothering,” Govan gushed about Leakes, “She’s very wise. She gives me a lot, a lot of my knowledge with TV, life, being a woman, coming up in this business, what I should do, what I shouldn’t do. I admire her as a person, as a woman. So, I appreciate everything that she’s done for me and has given to me.” That is exactly what fans like to see! Friends who can work out their differences and still appreciate each other’s worth.

What Not To Do In Your Wedding Photos

Wedding photos are one of those things that you will carry around with you forever. It is no surprise that the perfect photos you strive for are something you will one day show your children and grandchildren. However, there are always those couples out there that might not realize a photo is a mistake before taking it, and by some strange twist of incorrect fate, they believe it is a good pose. So, while the biggest tips are to be aware of your surroundings and hire a professional photographer, these people missed that apparent memo…

Do Not Make People Regret The Creation Of Photoshop:

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Do NOT, by any means, hire any photographer that could support the prosecution side for making Photoshop illegal. There are so many things wrong with this image, even if they were trying to be funny. The groom is essentially floating above the water while his bride’s sitting on a children’s bed in the middle of a pond that may or may not be sitting in someone’s front yard. Watch your use of Photoshop, no child wants to ever know their parents were capable of this.

Don’t Promote Violence:

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While it is never good to promote any type of violence, when it comes to wedding photos, this couple fell seriously short of looking even remotely like the Mob. Of course, no one knows what their intentions of this photo were, probably not even them, but if one thing is certain, it’s that this is what a Men In Black and Mob themed birthday party would look like. While the sunglasses could work, make sure EVERYONE is wearing them (Check the far left bridesmaid). Also, under no circumstances are leather vests over tuxedo jackets okay.

Avoid Every Type Of Photobombing:

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Not much needs to be said about these photos except for the fact that the photographer must not have been looking through the lens, or even at the people in the frame. Yes, it is funny to be photobombed by wildlife, but make sure it doesn’t get to a point where people might think the animal actually plays an integral role in your relationship.

Try Not To Cause Controversy:

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There is nothing wrong with being opinionated, but try not to let that reflect in your wedding photos, otherwise you will most likely look like this unlucky couple. Congratulations on your big day, but it is not a good idea to make controversial political statements at the same time. For example, it is not recommended to have Death standing in the frame while holding cardboard cutouts of nuclear weapons… it’s just not cool, and it doesn’t even look that good.

Be Above The Influence:

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Wedding photos are in total support of expressing the beauty of a couples relationship, not their weekend activities. While this could have been horrible timing, or maybe they thought the spelling would throw people off (does that say ‘snake math’?), it is still not an excuse to publish this photo as a milestone marker. Nice try, but next time, look into finding a different concrete structure for your backdrop.

Look At Your Surroundings – BEFORE:

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While this may just be the general problem for all these photos, it is one thing verbally asking animal to move versus actual humans. What is even going on here? It almost looks like these newlyweds were photoshopped into an moment that was awkwardly captured on film. Bottom line is, if your photographer will allow this nonsense, then take the picture (at least it’s a good laugh) and get your money back.

Do Not Do This:

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Okay, so this may be a comical idea for a photo, but the execution is off. Under no circumstances should one of your wedding photos look like a funny “Save The Date” invitation. If it is looking like a “Save The Date” photo, then you must think you are stuck in time, because the date has passed. The idea of the concerned father protecting his little girl is a cute and funny , but one, the bride looks too oblivious to the events occurring, and two, the dad is not even centered. It’s a cute idea, but when it comes to your actual wedding photos, just don’t do this.

How To Accommodate The Bridesmaids

Recently, Marie Claire put out an article giving helpful advice revealing some easy tips to finding the perfect and affordable bridesmaid dress.  It can seem like a daunting task, especially with all the different cuts and colors of dresses, but there are some top tips known by many brides and bridesmaids, alike. The most important thing for a bride to remember is that although it is her big day, the bridesmaid’s play an integral part within the process.

 

Don’t Take Care Of Them Last Minute

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Believe it or not, picking out your bridesmaid dresses before planning the overall color theme of the wedding can actually make the planning process easier. The bridesmaid dresses can also represent the theme of the wedding, and if you are stuck with finding the theme, look at some dresses and it might just come to you. Also, do not be stubborn when it comes to the color of their dresses. Take their skin tone into consideration, and if you chose them as your bridesmaids, then you should have already thought about finding dresses that flatter them.

Keep Them Warm

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While you may be having a hot flash from being nervous, your bridesmaids might feel the actual temperature of the venue, and they could be approaching the early stages of hypothermia. With that point aside, goose bumps are not the most attractive look, so make sure they have scarves or shrugs to keep them warm in the event that the venue is a little chilly.

Be Prepared For Alterations

If you are having custom bridesmaid dresses made, make sure to already plan out appointments for alterations because your bridesmaid’s can lose weight, gain weight, or maybe they are in the process of starting their own family and a pregnant belly needs to fit comfortably. There are many dresses that have empire waists and they fit in a very flattering way on many different body types.

Have Fun!

By all means, do not forget that this is the bride’s big day! It is the beginning of a new life and the day they get to profess their love to all the people around them. While the whole wedding process is known to be stressful due to the celebration, all of it will be well worth it by the time of the reception when everyone pops open a bottle of champagne and dances the night away.

While many may assume these tips are common wedding knowledge, or they are easier said than done, they are still just helpful little reminders to keep your cool on the big day. There are both obligations of the bride and bridesmaid’s, but with all the stress, sometimes it is easy to forget that the big day can be a little anxiety crazed for everyone.

Financial Obligation Of Being A Bridesmaid

Pink-Bridesmaids-Dresses-500x333Regardless whether it is their second, third, or first, weddings reign supreme in the biggest life celebrations. As soon as the future groom pops the question, it is then the future bride’s duty to propose to her best friends on whether or not they will be her bridesmaid. However, in some instances, bridesmaids end up turning down the offer due to the overall cost which includes accessories, the dress, gifts, and travel. For some serial bridesmaids, they can collect “bridesmaid debt,” due to the overall estimation for a standard bridesmaid being $1,695.

The standard receipt for a bridesmaid according to www.Mint.com:

Dress – $150

Travel [wedding, shower, bachelorette party] - $300 each

Gifts – $200

Soraya Jollon, a New York based wedding planner, explains, “The majority of bridesmaids are happy to buy a dress. If a bride has historically been the type to figure out exactly what each person owes when the bill arrives at a group dinner, she may ruffle some feathers if she insists that her friends buy a $500 dress and matching shoes.” However, a bridesmaid will typically put up with the bride because every wedding is usually stereotypical, and nothing that happens is something you have not heard of before.

The culture of a wedding is to be expensive, and the hardest thing for a bridesmaid is making sure your bride will understand if some things are a little too pricey. As a bridesmaid, it is important to voice anything financial so you do not end up screwing yourself over in the end with debt or cause drama between the bridal party.

‘Say Yes To The Dress: Bridesmaids’ Begins Filming New Season

51oIdzgbtaL._SX500_Small towns all over the nation have been going crazy over filming for TLC’s original show, Say Yes To The Dress: Bridesmaids. The show was a spinoff of TLC’s other original program, Say Yes To The Dress for the brides. The concept revolves around a bridal shop where bridal parties visit the store searching for the perfect bridesmaid’s dresses. It always proves to be very dramatic and emotional because someone always ends up breaking down into a crying mess in either joy or frustration.

The next season has filmed episodes for bridal parties in Cincinnati, Nashville, and a few military families scattered all over the nation. While the show gets its ratings for the drama, the show still provides good entertainment when some trips to the bridal shops run smoothly. It also helps future brides see what they could possibly be in for, so there are even some life lessons to be learned.

Say Yes To The Dress: Bridesmaids has proven that picking your bridesmaids is not a process to just skip over and look at all your potential picks. It is amazing what some of these sisters and friends can act like when they are put in a dress that was not their first pick. Regardless, it is kind of inevitable that there will be some form of drama regardless if you are watching it on television or actually bridesmaid dress shopping. The show airs on TLC almost every day and usually in marathon form and it fluctuates between the original show with wedding dress shopping to the bridesmaids episodes.

It’s a Party Dress, Not a Uniform- Why it’s Important For Bridesmaids to Be Comfortable

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As every little girl grows up, they ultimately envision their perfect wedding at one point in their life or another. They have the perfect dress, the perfect husband, but then something they do not look into until they’re older; bridesmaid’s dresses.

Bridesmaid’s dresses have plagued women for years and become the ritual that could formally be titled “How Bad Do I Look in This?” Where does the history of bridesmaids dresses turn sour? It could be the invention of taffeta, or the invention of any fabric that makes a noise as your walk. However, as the decades of weddings go by, it is always the bride that makes the final decision on what you’ll be wearing in the photos she’ll carry around for a lifetime, but why have these dresses allowed fashion to take an 80’s step back? Because it’s the bride’s wedding, not yours.

However, there has been a shift in the atmosphere, and brides are beginning to show a little more sympathy for their bridal party. As many women know, bridesmaid’s dresses are one of the key staples in the wedding process. As many colors and cuts have been generically used, and the population of taffeta declining; designers are beginning to show trendier looks. These new looks are displaying more flexible cuts, new color combinations, and they are carrying some amazing designer labels on the neck.

This poses the next problem, the price of bridesmaid’s dresses. If one has ever seen bridesmaids, in the pivotal food poisoning scene at the bridal store that had many rolling on the floor laughing, there is more to it than just horrible food from a back alley Mexican restaurant. It was about the fact that these women could not agree on the cost of a dress! For the brides reading this; let your designated handlers (i.e. bridesmaids) have about 55% of the decision in what they will be wearing for close to 24 hours. These dresses, according to fact, need to get your bridesmaids through chasing after what you cannot find (cell phone, ring, champagne glass), thousands of photos, and dancing all night long at the reception. So, please, for all the brides out there, think about your bridesmaids because in the end, these dresses are not meant for any other event besides that full day. Let the gals have a little leeway in their dresses. Of course, you still determine the color, and you cannot have them upstage you, but find the happy medium, because no one needs the extra stress of an unhappy bridesmaid. So, take a moment and put on the bridesmaids shoes, even though the whole point was that you did not have to, and try to understand that they want their custom bridesmaid dress to be a party dress just like yours. They don’t want to be wearing a uniform.

Don’t Be “That Girl”- The 10 Ugliest Wedding Dresses We’ve Ever Seen

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There’s nothing wrong with “thinking outside of the box”, but when it comes to your wedding dress, it’s always good to keep in mind that while your memories might fade, your wedding photos are forever. That being said, here are 10 of the worst wedding dresses we’ve ever seen.

In case you plan on throwing away every dress the next day…

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If your dog needs a new toy the day after your wedding…

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In case you plan on sinking, you can stay afloat!

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Everyone could use a piece of abstract art in their home…the day after their wedding

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In case you’re afraid of getting lost in the dark…

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No. Just No.

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In case you need a tulle canopy for your bed…

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Maybe your home could use an artificial coral reef after your get married…

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And we leave you with this.

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