Getting The Grooms Back In The Game

Liz FieldsThroughout the years, it seems as though the grooms have not been as excited or involved in the wedding planning. It’s almost as if they ride in neutral until they have to walk down the aisle. There is almost no surprise anymore in terms of wedding planning, even from the engagement.

It used to be that the groom would kidnap his future bride’s best friend and take her to the ring store (hopefully, Tiffany’s – that little blue box is a dream wrapped in ribbon), and he purchases it without his soon-to-be fiancĂ© having any idea. That moment doesn’t even exist anymore, it’s becoming more popular to just propose to your bride-to-be and then go ring shopping together, and that is not how it should be. There needs to be some form of motivation to get the grooms back to being excited about their wedding – and here are my ideas on how,


This is the first issue. If you don’t express your opinions, then you might as well just go on a vacation until you have to walk down the aisle, which may sound great, but that’s not how it should be. This is a big day for both the bride and the groom and planning it should be done together as best as possible. Of course, you’re not going to go dress shopping with her and her bridesmaid’s, but you can let the tux shopping become an event for you and your best men.


The wedding planning can become a headache, but if you’re both involved, the headache is split between the two of you rather than having the burden on just your bride-to-be. It is almost inevitable that eventually, her mother, sister, or bridesmaids will drive her up the wall, and it’s your job to keep her level-headed. If she gets too caught up in the frustrations, she won’t be able to enjoy it – and planning her wedding isn’t something she wants to forget.


There is nothing wrong with getting a necklace, or bracelet engraved for your bride-to-be before the wedding day. You want to overly romance her so she stays excited and focused on the end game. Wedding planning can become very overwhelming and there are so many decisions to make, but by doing sweet, even little things for her, she’ll remember the whole purpose for powering through all the stress – saying “I do,” to you.

It is important to remember that you are her prince charming. This is the day she has been dreaming about since she was a little girl, and to have her future husband be as excited as her is something she will never forget – and the pictures will be THAT much better because you’re both genuinely smiling from ear-to-ear.

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