CONGRATULATIONS! You’re engaged!
You probably overjoyed and anxious to get things moving along. So, you’re probably wondering, “What do I do next?” “When do I go wedding dress shopping?” “When do we set a date?” Well, here are a few tips on where to get started:
1. If you haven’t called your relative and close friends…do that first! Share the joy.
2. If your ring is too big, get it sized…and then get it insured! You should be able to enjoy wearing your ring without feeling nervous about it falling off, losing it, etc. Obviously, the sentimental value is greater than any cost placed on the ring, but get it added to your homeowner or renter’s insurance…you’ll just feel better about it.
3. Discuss a date with your mate. It doesn’t have to be exact, but agree on a timeline… (i.e. Fall 2013, Early 2013). If you’re like me, you’ll take care of everything and just let your hubby-to-be know where to be and when. No need to stress him out (unless he likes the planning part), so get the “date” out of the way early so you know where you stand and what to do next.
4. Discuss your wedding ideas with your fiance. Make sure you’re on the same page and make sure you make it about the two of you and not just YOU. Figure out what the two of you want the wedding to look like and then discuss it with whoever is involved financially with the wedding.
5. Decide if you need a wedding planner and if you have the budget for it.
6. Start shopping for your wedding dress and bridesmaids dresses. This will help set the tone for the wedding. You don’t want to wait until you have flowers and linens and cake picked out and then you have the stress of finding a dress that goes with all of those things. It will drive you crazy. Get it out of the way and then, at least, you’ll know that the dresses will be in early enough to get your fittings in and be stress-free.
7. Get your guest lists together (make sure both families compile their own and give them to whoever is handling invitations). If you are having a small wedding of 50 people or a large wedding of 500 people, make sure you know YOUR guest list first of your friends and then give each family a quota they must be under. For example if you need to be under 100 guests, and you have 30 friends that MUST be at your wedding, then each family will be allowed to have 35 guests)
8. HAVE FUN! Don’t stress over small stuff. Nothing can be more amazing than the love you two have for each other and if you are genuinely having the best time of your life, so will your guests.