Below is an except from a letter written by a soon-to-be bride to her bridesmaids regarding her expectations of them during the wedding festivities. Needless to say, this is one of the milder sections of the letter, which is still blatantly demanding and pretty, well, terrifying…
Don’t let this happen to you!
When it comes to planning a wedding, a bride will oftentimes be so involved in every detail and decision made that she slowly becomes stressed out about everything and eventually finds her friends and family calling her a “Bridezilla.” Here are some useful tips for a bride to avoid becoming a bridezilla. Weddings take much time, effort, and patience to plan, as well as having someone to always be a positive influence in the brides life is dire. A bride should allow herself enough time to get everything done. When a couple is choosing a wedding date, although you are extremely excited and just want to get it over and done with, pick a date that isn’t approaching too quickly. By choosing a date that is far into the future (not too far of course), the guests can have enough time to ensure they can request off from work and fly in if they need to, at an affordable price.
A couple must always remember that although this is their wedding, there are some aspects that they should be considerate about. Giving your guests and yourselves enough time to have everything settled is very important. Once you have set a date you can now begin to find a venue that is cost effective and available on your date. Having enough time from the day you begin to plan your wedding and by your wedding date should allow the bride and groom to plan their wedding with the minimum amount of stress. It will allow for days to be planned individually and accordingly to different aspects of the wedding.
While the wedding plans are constantly on a brides mind, more so than the grooms, the bride should always remember to take a break from wedding planning and spend time with her fiancé. This time should be spent reminding yourselves why it is that you love each other and plan to marry in the first place. Many couples lose themselves during the time of a wedding being planned, fights arise and tension quickly takes over. A great way to avoid or control these moments from happening are by planning days for each of you. There should be times where the groom is without the bride and thinking of wedding plans, the same for the bride. They should both enjoy time with their own friends and families, watching the game or having a spa day.
Couple spa days once a month or as much as possible can be a great way for couples to relax together and relieve the stress that has been added from all the wedding plans and finding a custom bridesmaid dress. If the couple is on a budget and prefers to save every cent they have for the wedding, they can have their own spa day at home. Cooking a nice dinner together, turning on light music and lighting the candles around the house and bedroom will automatically put you both in a nice and relaxed mood. Enjoying each others company and even taking turns massaging each other is an effective way to keep the closeness and forget about the stress that has been added to your relationship from planning. Don’t forget to always be grateful for each other, and your families, a wedding can be extremely stressful to plan, but staying focused on whats most important is key.