5 Ways To Be An Awesome Bride To Your Bridesmaids!

Now, with all the talk out there about potentially turning into a bridezilla, woman are freaking out and watching their attitudes more than they need to! The truth is, your bridesmaid’s can understand if you are acting a little crazy as the big day approaches, so what better way to help them survive your wrath than shower them with gifts and new opportunities.

There are five solid ways to impress your bridesmaid’s and help them understand the reign of terror that you have unleashed on everyone involved in the wedding, and here they are…

Switch It Up With Color Swatches

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Before you go shopping for bridesmaid’s dresses, give them a color swatch that matches your wedding theme, that way they have a little leeway with picking. Plus, multi-colored dresses aren’t such a bad idea and they give your wedding party a little dimension. Now, I’m not saying you should let one pick green, the other hot pink, and another fire engine red, I’m talking more along the lines of different shades of blue, purple, green etc.

Take Care Of Their Feet

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While it’s no surprise that your bridesmaid’s and you will be on your feet all night, make sure to pick out comfortable shoes for them to wear. Also, don’t make them go hiking through the wilderness (also known as grass) because the last thing you need to deal with is a broken ankle. So, keep the picture’s simple to pose in and maybe when the reception rolls around, invest in some cute flip flops to give the girls to take a little pressure off their heels.

Go On A Girls Day Out

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Sometime’s bridal parties are a big mismatch of family member’s that have never met each other or never had the opportunity to grow closer. So, before the big day, plan some outings like lunch dates or even a girl’s night out. Plus, having all your bridesmaid’s getting along is basically a dream.

Warn Them Of Creepy Groomsmen

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There is always that one weird cousin of the groom who is in your bridal party well, it is super important to warn your bridesmaid’s of that weird cousin and any other creepy groomsmen. However, if some of your bridesmaid’s are single, and there are some handsome bachelor’s standing by your future husband in nice tuxedos, help a girl out. You never know, maybe you’re a matchmaker and you’ll be watching her throw the bouquet next time!

The Bachelorette Party – Dun Dun Dun

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Okay, now this is where a lot of fights tend to break out typically, over the bride being uncomfortable with the future festivities. So, if you think your bridesmaid’s are going to drag you to a strip club, then drop subtle hints on how that would make you uncomfortable – they’ll understand. Also, if you don’t want to seem like you’re complaining, then drop hints about what you might like to do before they start really getting into the party planning.

Now, those are some sure fire ways to make your bridesmaid’s happy leading up to and on your big day. Remember, this is a life celebration so, go and enjoy it – stress free!

Tips For The Wedding Toasters

Bridesmaid DressNow, whether you are good at public speaking or not, actually if you aren’t then you should not have accepted the offer at giving a toast, but anyways, if you are one of the designated toaster’s, there are a few key things to remember in order to keep the room casual and not awkward. When people give wedding toasts, they often forget the different between a roast and a toast. However, if you fear this to be your problem and think that your speech might be a little too racy, just think about the bride and groom’s personality. If you understand the personalities of the people who asked you to be the maid of honor and best man at their wedding, then they should have some faith in you. So, here are some solid speech giving tips for the future toaster’s out there!

Keep It Simple

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No one wants to listen to you talk for an hour about stories that they were not there for, bottom line. Yes, it is a cute moment for you and the bride to share, but it is not just the two of you in the room. Your speech doesn’t have a time limit, but people have attention spans that vary at different lengths. So, just be genuine with your emotions, let the words flow, and keep it at a decent length.

Don’t Aim To Make People Laugh

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Jokes will come if they come. If you try to make people laugh, you most likely won’t. If the bride and groom have a sense of humor and sarcasm and jokes are their forte, then you can throw some jabs in there, but try making the personality assessment in a broad sense, then the whole room has the potential to understand and relate.

Keep Away From College Stories

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College reflection is meant to be done in the privacy of a girl’s apartment on a girl’s night. The bride’s parent might know you girls got into some crazy antics in college, but that doesn’t mean they want to hear about them so, by no means should you be making anyone uncomfortable. Also, aside from the age demographic of your audience, a majority of them have no idea what you are talking about and they simply don’t care.

It’s Okay To Cry

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While you should not aim to make people cry, these speeches can be a really moving moment between the bridesmaid and the bride. If you happen to cry, don’t hold it back with too much force because then your voice will reach new and strange octaves. There are also plenty of girls around you to help adjust your make up if you do happen to tear up. Also, if you feel like you are on the verge of losing it, or you don’t like crying in public, then just take a deep breath and let it out slowly.

If you are nervous about giving a speech, just remember that the bride chose you knowing that this would be an important step in the process. So, since your best friend has faith in you, otherwise she would have openly given the toasting opportunity to someone else, just speak from your heart and help in celebrating the love between the bride and groom…  You’ll be fine!

 

 

 

Bridesmaid Dishes On Nene Leakes Wedding

BridesmaidEven though the Atlanta Housewife, Nene Leakes, has filmed her recent nuptials to her ex-husband for a Bravo! series spin-off, there is nothing like an exclusive interview with a bridesmaid that can really dish on the things that the camera’s could not capture. Leakes’ best friend and LA Basketball Wife, Laura Govan, recently opened up about how anything dealing with Nene Leakes is a good time.

While the camera’s undoubtedly captured some dramatic moments (reality TV would be nothing without it), Govan explained how the bridesmaids dresses posed more problems that the actual bride and her demands. “What I wanted was something different,” Govan explained, “I didn’t get it, but we worked it out. As a matter of fact, I took pieces out of the trashcan. I took some scraps to make it work.” Of course, it may seem like not letting a woman such as Laura Govan have her dream bridesmaid dress would put a damper on the friendship, but she assured that it was anything, but that.

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Leakes wedding photo from Life & Style.

“She’s very mothering,” Govan gushed about Leakes, “She’s very wise. She gives me a lot, a lot of my knowledge with TV, life, being a woman, coming up in this business, what I should do, what I shouldn’t do. I admire her as a person, as a woman. So, I appreciate everything that she’s done for me and has given to me.” That is exactly what fans like to see! Friends who can work out their differences and still appreciate each other’s worth.

What Not To Do In Your Wedding Photos

Wedding photos are one of those things that you will carry around with you forever. It is no surprise that the perfect photos you strive for are something you will one day show your children and grandchildren. However, there are always those couples out there that might not realize a photo is a mistake before taking it, and by some strange twist of incorrect fate, they believe it is a good pose. So, while the biggest tips are to be aware of your surroundings and hire a professional photographer, these people missed that apparent memo…

Do Not Make People Regret The Creation Of Photoshop:

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Do NOT, by any means, hire any photographer that could support the prosecution side for making Photoshop illegal. There are so many things wrong with this image, even if they were trying to be funny. The groom is essentially floating above the water while his bride’s sitting on a children’s bed in the middle of a pond that may or may not be sitting in someone’s front yard. Watch your use of Photoshop, no child wants to ever know their parents were capable of this.

Don’t Promote Violence:

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While it is never good to promote any type of violence, when it comes to wedding photos, this couple fell seriously short of looking even remotely like the Mob. Of course, no one knows what their intentions of this photo were, probably not even them, but if one thing is certain, it’s that this is what a Men In Black and Mob themed birthday party would look like. While the sunglasses could work, make sure EVERYONE is wearing them (Check the far left bridesmaid). Also, under no circumstances are leather vests over tuxedo jackets okay.

Avoid Every Type Of Photobombing:

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Not much needs to be said about these photos except for the fact that the photographer must not have been looking through the lens, or even at the people in the frame. Yes, it is funny to be photobombed by wildlife, but make sure it doesn’t get to a point where people might think the animal actually plays an integral role in your relationship.

Try Not To Cause Controversy:

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There is nothing wrong with being opinionated, but try not to let that reflect in your wedding photos, otherwise you will most likely look like this unlucky couple. Congratulations on your big day, but it is not a good idea to make controversial political statements at the same time. For example, it is not recommended to have Death standing in the frame while holding cardboard cutouts of nuclear weapons… it’s just not cool, and it doesn’t even look that good.

Be Above The Influence:

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Wedding photos are in total support of expressing the beauty of a couples relationship, not their weekend activities. While this could have been horrible timing, or maybe they thought the spelling would throw people off (does that say ‘snake math’?), it is still not an excuse to publish this photo as a milestone marker. Nice try, but next time, look into finding a different concrete structure for your backdrop.

Look At Your Surroundings – BEFORE:

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While this may just be the general problem for all these photos, it is one thing verbally asking animal to move versus actual humans. What is even going on here? It almost looks like these newlyweds were photoshopped into an moment that was awkwardly captured on film. Bottom line is, if your photographer will allow this nonsense, then take the picture (at least it’s a good laugh) and get your money back.

Do Not Do This:

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Okay, so this may be a comical idea for a photo, but the execution is off. Under no circumstances should one of your wedding photos look like a funny “Save The Date” invitation. If it is looking like a “Save The Date” photo, then you must think you are stuck in time, because the date has passed. The idea of the concerned father protecting his little girl is a cute and funny , but one, the bride looks too oblivious to the events occurring, and two, the dad is not even centered. It’s a cute idea, but when it comes to your actual wedding photos, just don’t do this.

Soul Surfer Marries On Hawaiian Hilltop

Wedding NewsIt was in October of 2003 that Hawaiian native, Bethany Hamilton was attacked by a Tiger shark while surfing with her best friend Alana Blanchard and Blanchard’s father. The shark bit Hamilton’s arm off within a split second attack, and a massive hunt was initiated to find the shark that attacked the young girl (Hamilton was 13 years old at the time). Now, in 2013, Hamilton married Christian youth minister, Adam Dirks.

In 2011, the movie Soul Surfer was released based on Hamilton’s shark attack and her recovery and return to the competitive surfing world. Her struggles were unimaginable and she explained in an interview with InTouch magazine, “I always felt it would be hard to meet someone because I’m different. To say I was completely comfortable looking at myself in the mirror and seeing one arm would be a lie. I just had to trust in God and know that he had someone special for me.” Dirks and Hamilton met through mutual friends at their church and married on the north shore of Kauai, Hawaii.

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Hamilton at 13 and now.

“I look forward to being the best wife that I can be for Adam and to starting our new adventure together,” Hamilton told People magazine. “I love surfing, but getting married doesn’t even compare, this was definitely the best night of my life.” The wedding party consisted for 13 bridesmaids and eight groomsmen who were all barefoot for the entire ceremony along with the bride and groom. Hamilton donned a traditional white gown that she posed in for InTouch magazine, but in due time, the bridesmaids dresses and groom apparel should start popping up on Hamilton’s Instagram.

How To Accommodate The Bridesmaids

Recently, Marie Claire put out an article giving helpful advice revealing some easy tips to finding the perfect and affordable bridesmaid dress.  It can seem like a daunting task, especially with all the different cuts and colors of dresses, but there are some top tips known by many brides and bridesmaids, alike. The most important thing for a bride to remember is that although it is her big day, the bridesmaid’s play an integral part within the process.

 

Don’t Take Care Of Them Last Minute

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Believe it or not, picking out your bridesmaid dresses before planning the overall color theme of the wedding can actually make the planning process easier. The bridesmaid dresses can also represent the theme of the wedding, and if you are stuck with finding the theme, look at some dresses and it might just come to you. Also, do not be stubborn when it comes to the color of their dresses. Take their skin tone into consideration, and if you chose them as your bridesmaids, then you should have already thought about finding dresses that flatter them.

Keep Them Warm

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While you may be having a hot flash from being nervous, your bridesmaids might feel the actual temperature of the venue, and they could be approaching the early stages of hypothermia. With that point aside, goose bumps are not the most attractive look, so make sure they have scarves or shrugs to keep them warm in the event that the venue is a little chilly.

Be Prepared For Alterations

If you are having custom bridesmaid dresses made, make sure to already plan out appointments for alterations because your bridesmaid’s can lose weight, gain weight, or maybe they are in the process of starting their own family and a pregnant belly needs to fit comfortably. There are many dresses that have empire waists and they fit in a very flattering way on many different body types.

Have Fun!

By all means, do not forget that this is the bride’s big day! It is the beginning of a new life and the day they get to profess their love to all the people around them. While the whole wedding process is known to be stressful due to the celebration, all of it will be well worth it by the time of the reception when everyone pops open a bottle of champagne and dances the night away.

While many may assume these tips are common wedding knowledge, or they are easier said than done, they are still just helpful little reminders to keep your cool on the big day. There are both obligations of the bride and bridesmaid’s, but with all the stress, sometimes it is easy to forget that the big day can be a little anxiety crazed for everyone.

Woman Marries With 80 Bridesmaids By Her Side

Bridesmaids DressesIt took 76 students, three sisters in-law, one niece, one cousin, and a best friend to make up dance teacher, Katie Dalby’s unimaginably large bridal party. Her bridesmaids dawned identical pink dresses with a sheer navy tie around the waist. It came down to the fact that Dalby could not break the hearts of her students and friends who had been so excited for her wedding so, she simply chose them all to somehow make it easier.

 ”The children were all very excited when I told them I was getting married, some of them had been asking me for more than a year,” Dalby explained. She felt as though it would not be fair to all the girls who had been helping her plan her wedding to firemen, Norman Gooch, if she had only chosen two or three of them. While many of Dalby’s students are young kids, their parents were so happy and thankful to her for allowing their children to be included on her big day.

Before the procession, the roads needed to be closed for the size of the bridal party. A majority of the students were between ages two to 17 and members of the bride’s Essex based dance academy. According to the reverend who had married the happy couple, “There were a very large number of bridesmaids, but there was room for them in the pews nearest to the aisle and they formed a guard of honor as the bride and groom left the church.”

Bridesmaid’s Can Wear White Too!

white bridesmaid dresses aAs the times change, many will only hear traditionalists say that only the bride can wear white. However, many brides are beginning to see the fashion benefits and change their state of mind as to what color their bridesmaid’s dresses can be. In recent trends, white and ivory bridesmaid dresses have been popping up on designer sites and Facebook’s everywhere.

The choice between the two similar colors all depends on what color the bride’s gown will be. If the bride chooses an ivory based dress, then to put a slim difference between her and her maids, it would be smart to put them in a more pure white. If the bride chooses an elegant and traditional white gown, then their bridesmaid’s would choose ivory dresses. While people may be concerned with the fact that is it not only the bride wearing white, there should not be much of a concern, because everyone attending should know whose wedding it is.

By allowing the color scheme to stay within the basic white’s allows for the photos of the entire bridal party to tie together as well. Plus, if the wedding is seasonal, the white and ivory can stand out among the fall or summer colors. Honestly, with whatever traditions may change within the life celebration of a wedding, they always seem to work out and catch on in one way or another.

Daughter Films Faux Wedding Dance With Dying Father

One of the most important moments in any girls life, is on her wedding day when she gets to have her dance with her dad. There is something about that moment that will forever bring tears to on-looking eyes, and especially in the moment that went viral between Rachel Wolf and her father. In September of 2011, Rachel’s father, Dr. James Wolf, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. For the past two years he has undergone extensive treatment, and is coming up on the end of his battle.

Although Rachel is not even engaged, she knows that when that day comes, she would forever regret not having that special moment with her dad. So, she decided to surprise him with a faux wedding so they could have their last dance and when the day comes, she can play that video. “It meant more to him than I ever thought it would,” Rachel explained to ABC News. “The joy that I saw in his face when he saw me was amazing.”

While the video has gone viral, Rachel has explained that she does not want to watch it until her actual wedding day. In the event that her father would not physically make it to one of the biggest moments in her life, for her, now he still can be. “I was completely taken aback,” Dr. Wolf explained. “It was a special idea to remember her father at her wedding day.” Although his interview was brief, a lot of his energy was drained from the dance, but it can be seen on his face in the video that he has never seen his daughter look so beautiful.

Financial Obligation Of Being A Bridesmaid

Pink-Bridesmaids-Dresses-500x333Regardless whether it is their second, third, or first, weddings reign supreme in the biggest life celebrations. As soon as the future groom pops the question, it is then the future bride’s duty to propose to her best friends on whether or not they will be her bridesmaid. However, in some instances, bridesmaids end up turning down the offer due to the overall cost which includes accessories, the dress, gifts, and travel. For some serial bridesmaids, they can collect “bridesmaid debt,” due to the overall estimation for a standard bridesmaid being $1,695.

The standard receipt for a bridesmaid according to www.Mint.com:

Dress – $150

Travel [wedding, shower, bachelorette party] - $300 each

Gifts – $200

Soraya Jollon, a New York based wedding planner, explains, “The majority of bridesmaids are happy to buy a dress. If a bride has historically been the type to figure out exactly what each person owes when the bill arrives at a group dinner, she may ruffle some feathers if she insists that her friends buy a $500 dress and matching shoes.” However, a bridesmaid will typically put up with the bride because every wedding is usually stereotypical, and nothing that happens is something you have not heard of before.

The culture of a wedding is to be expensive, and the hardest thing for a bridesmaid is making sure your bride will understand if some things are a little too pricey. As a bridesmaid, it is important to voice anything financial so you do not end up screwing yourself over in the end with debt or cause drama between the bridal party.