Yes, this is an extreme example, and no, it doesn’t have to happen to you. That being said, it’s never a bad idea to give yourself a little taste of what could happen if you let your wildest dreams actually become a reality.
One of the most difficult decisions that comes into play when planning a wedding is that of finding the perfect bridesmaid dress. Bridesmaids come in all shapes and sizes, and this can either be ideal or a disaster waiting to happen for both the bride and her maidens. Taking a look at a bridesmaid’s nightmares, finding a dress is the number one worry for any of the women who agree to be in a wedding. The risk that is taken when committing to be a bridesmaid is a pretty big one. For one reason or another brides tend to choose dresses that have over-sized shoulders, making their brides look like they just jumped out of a plane and used their dress as a parachute in order to land perfectly at the scene.
In other cases you find the bride who wants all her bridesmaids to match her style and thus chooses dresses that are just as large in the skirt as her own but with loud vibrant colors that are to match the rest of the colors of the wedding. Finding dresses that are this large and vibrant take away from the bride herself and result in a wedding spectacle. There are many ways to turn a traditional wedding into a flaming hot mess, and without proper guidance a bride can be convinced by herself that she is making the right decisions for her bridesmaids. In order to avoid having all eyes on a wedding disaster, brides should take many things into consideration before saying yes to any dress.
A great way of knowing that you are making the right decision for your bridesmaids is by allowing your bridesmaids opinions to be heard. Plan a few days where each day has a different goal in order to reach one optimum goal. In weddings, brides and their bridesmaids can become extremely stressed, turning that once lovable woman into what is known as a bridezilla. By having different days planned with distinct tasks to achieve one goal it will help relieve the stress of going to a boutique and having to pick a dress that day. A helpful idea would be to plan a day where the bride and her bridesmaids take a look at dresses online and in wedding books, a great website to start would be Liz Fields. Separating the search for a dress into days will not only help with the anxiety of being at a store for hours and making a rushed decision, but it will also allow for the bridesmaids to voice their opinion.
Bridesmaids like to know that their feelings and opinions are being heard and taken into consideration by the bride, they understand that it is the brides day, but no one wants to invest time and money into something they don’t agree on. Brides should always remember that although the final decision on a custom bridesmaid dress is usually up to them, it is a dress that they will not be purchasing for her friends, therefore planning days to help come to one understanding and agreement will help so much more in the long run. This in fact will turn a disaster waiting to happen into a smooth and fun ride for all. Leaving the wedding party feeling and looking fabulous.