Now, whether you are good at public speaking or not, actually if you aren’t then you should not have accepted the offer at giving a toast, but anyways, if you are one of the designated toaster’s, there are a few key things to remember in order to keep the room casual and not awkward. When people give wedding toasts, they often forget the different between a roast and a toast. However, if you fear this to be your problem and think that your speech might be a little too racy, just think about the bride and groom’s personality. If you understand the personalities of the people who asked you to be the maid of honor and best man at their wedding, then they should have some faith in you. So, here are some solid speech giving tips for the future toaster’s out there!
Keep It Simple
No one wants to listen to you talk for an hour about stories that they were not there for, bottom line. Yes, it is a cute moment for you and the bride to share, but it is not just the two of you in the room. Your speech doesn’t have a time limit, but people have attention spans that vary at different lengths. So, just be genuine with your emotions, let the words flow, and keep it at a decent length.
Don’t Aim To Make People Laugh
Jokes will come if they come. If you try to make people laugh, you most likely won’t. If the bride and groom have a sense of humor and sarcasm and jokes are their forte, then you can throw some jabs in there, but try making the personality assessment in a broad sense, then the whole room has the potential to understand and relate.
Keep Away From College Stories
College reflection is meant to be done in the privacy of a girl’s apartment on a girl’s night. The bride’s parent might know you girls got into some crazy antics in college, but that doesn’t mean they want to hear about them so, by no means should you be making anyone uncomfortable. Also, aside from the age demographic of your audience, a majority of them have no idea what you are talking about and they simply don’t care.
It’s Okay To Cry
While you should not aim to make people cry, these speeches can be a really moving moment between the bridesmaid and the bride. If you happen to cry, don’t hold it back with too much force because then your voice will reach new and strange octaves. There are also plenty of girls around you to help adjust your make up if you do happen to tear up. Also, if you feel like you are on the verge of losing it, or you don’t like crying in public, then just take a deep breath and let it out slowly.
If you are nervous about giving a speech, just remember that the bride chose you knowing that this would be an important step in the process. So, since your best friend has faith in you, otherwise she would have openly given the toasting opportunity to someone else, just speak from your heart and help in celebrating the love between the bride and groom… You’ll be fine!